This One’s for You

This one’s for you; the one who is going through a tough time and is ready to give up,
The one who feels like nothing will ever go right again after making one mistake,
The one who has so much to offer the world, but remains silent and afraid of the comments and rejection of society,
The one who is silenced by fear and confusion,
The one who sees the beauty in people, even when people reveal nothing but their ugly sides,
To you.

I love you. I love your flaws and your remarkable features. I love that incredible mind of yours. You are beautiful, strong, and independent. It’s just an impossible period of time, not an impossible life.

Surround yourself with people who make you happy, do more of what brings serenity to your life, and smile more often. Happiness looks great on you, I’m sure of that. You are doing a wonderful job, and it’s only a matter of temporary stress, remember that.

Cheers.

Open Letter

– Dedicated to every person struggling with relationships –

I know you lie on your bed and think about the one you love. I also know you dream about the one you love and wish that person could be yours forever.

I know you smile or squeal whenever you see the name of the one you love pop on your screen. I know you often load only the snaps of the one you love because you want to know what s/he is doing.

I know you dream of talking to the one you love for countless hours and never saying good-bye. I also know you wish you could shorten the distance separating the both of you.

However, I guess you know how hard it is to see the one you love, the one you care the most about right after family, turn towards other people.

I believe you know how hurt you can get when you realize you don’t mean to the one you love as much as you thought you did, or as much as s/he means to you.

I get what you feel.

Every person, including you, wants to mean something to someone more than anything else in the world. Every person wants to be talked about in the best way possible, and know the one s/he loves called him/her irreplaceable.

Every girl wants to know that the one she loves mentioned her name to his friends, said that she was the one he wants, that, even with a messy bun and no makeup, she’s still the most beautiful girl on the planet, that her laugh is the most adorable thing he has ever heard, that his life without her wouldn’t be the same, and that he’s glad and proud to know her.

You have probably fought for a place in the life of the one you love, and have perhaps fallen several times. Maybe there were obstacles in your way, and you lost contact with the one you love for a while, and that period felt like ages, so it was hell for you.

You plausibly wondered if it hurt your lover the same way it hurt you. But sometimes, the sad part comes here: it didn’t.

But now I tell you, dear friend, don’t you dare give up on love.

What I know is that you are stronger than that, and you deserve much better. I know that behind that broken, mistreated soul, lies someone with a bold character who is ready to change the world. You should be the reason people would think twice before breaking someone’s heart.

The first person who hurt you will certainly not be the last. And perhaps you did dream about your lover, and ended up heartbroken, however you should never lose your spark. Shine so bright people would still want to look at you even though you blinded them. Be the reason behind people’s smiles, and their motive to reach success.

I promise you that even if the one you loved broke all connection between the both of you, by breaking free from the pain and burning bright, you’ll find someone who’ll talk about you like you’re his/her inspiration, who will absentmindedly smile when s/he sees your face, whose life you will ignite like a fire every time you two make eye contact, who will do the impossible to spend time with you, and who will fight for you and protect you like crazy.

Again, dear friend, don’t you dare give up on relationships.

August 27th, 2016

You know when you feel like you’re fighting for that one tiny place in someone’s life? When you feel selfish when it comes to that person? When you try your best to show that you’re always by that person’s side, but s/he chooses someone else?

How does that make you feel?

Now, this is the saddest thing I’ve ever said:

That place you’re fighting for may seem so precious to you, so you want to preserve it. The memories you’re striving for are the ones worth keeping. But, sadly, you’ll realize that, at many times, your presence in the other person’s life is not as relevant and important as you thought it was. The other person’s life would be the same…with or without you.

I know it hurts. Trust me. But you know, there’s always this tiny flame of hope. It’s that only living rose in a bouquet of dead roses…that one thing that keeps you going. It’s that little feeling of comfort that motivates you to keep fighting. That ounce of hope is there for a reason: to make you realize that the world doesn’t go on without you.

Take a moment. Breathe.

There are seven billion souls on this planet. There’s always going to be someone else, a new face. It’s not easy to pursue your daily routine with a hole in your heart, I know, but I promise you that there will always be someone who will love you, who will absentmindedly smile when s/he sees your face, and who will purposely make a safe place in his/her life for you to rest in.

Yes, people do change. One day you feel like you mean the world to them, and the other you feel like you never existed. It’s normal.

But what I want to say is step out of your surroundings and meet new people. Go find that friend or lover who makes you feel loved and appreciated. And most importantly, remain gentle and nice with the people who hurt you, not because you’re weak, but because you’d be the bigger person. They’ll realize that if they — purposely — hurt you, they were wrong, and if they didn’t hurt you on purpose, you would have given them a reason to want to start over.

So remember the following: be nice to everyone, smile, go on adventures, think wisely, and never let someone bring you down.

August 16th, 2016.

Okay so I’m here, right now, to write. About everything that’s going on in my mind at the moment.


For starters, I think that there’s much more to this life than what we give it credit for. I do. I mean, seriously, we always blame the universe for everything bad that has ever happened to us. We always look at the downsides of everything, and we can’t seem to realize all the good things that we encounter every. Single. Day. That man helping an elderly lady you saw the other day wasn’t just a normal instant. Doesn’t it push you to do good deeds? Well I may be giving you a very trivial example, but the -say- message is there. Life isn’t just here to stand in your way and make you feel like a failure. Okay, perhaps we all mess up, or we see that things didn’t go as planned; however, it won’t all be like that. I think we should all take a moment to look at all we’ve accomplished, all we were given, and all the blessings we have. If you haven’t made a difference yet, keep trying. Life won’t stand in the way of your devotion for long.

Another thing I’d like to talk about is the fact that no matter how many times I tell my close friends that we should always be honest to each other, I feel like there are things I just can’t talk about. Not because these certain matters are conspiratorial, or dangerous, but because there’s always this fear of the other person’s reaction. Will that person think I’m desperate? Or demanding attention? Will that person drift further away from me? I perpetually have this fright that the other person will end up even farther away from me than s/he was at the start. So, yeah, I keep some things to myself, and just accept them as they are. It’s a little sad, but I can’t really do anything about it.

One more thing is the negativity that seems to be widespread nowadays. Everyone is always tense, stressed, depressed, mad, loathsome, judgmental, and over-demanding. You find hate and criticism everywhere. On all social media. In schools. Everywhere. I’ve been a Twitter user since 2010, and I’d like to say that there is more hate and bullying on that network than you can imagine. In fact, rumors about Twitter getting shut down were circulating because of all the bullying. Just this morning, I read a series of tweets on the matter, and here’s what they say:  “I wish I had the time to start some sort of ‘campaign’ on social media where love and positivity are spread to kick all the hatred in the shins. So much hate and bullying and negativity need to change on here. The Internet is supposed to connect us together in good ways because I’ve come to the realization that even a tiny ounce of positivity can sometimes change your entire mindset for a few days or a week. Just imagine if there’s positivity at every corner of social media you look at. It would be inspiring, honestly.” (Mathew AJ)
We really need to free ourselves from all those negative vibes and start looking at the good things, start being better people, start putting others before ourselves, start working hard and helping others, and start keeping our smart comments to ourselves.

Lastly, I would like to talk about effort. Your endeavor never goes to waste. Failing is okay. You can always start over. Whether you’re putting effort in your studies, work, relationships, or goals, failure and disappointment shouldn’t be a problem. For example, this year has been the most exhausting year of my life (on the school and relationships levels). I was so caught up in maintaining my good grades that whenever they dropped, just a little bit, I broke down. But at the end of the year, I realized that my effort didn’t go to waste. After all, grades aren’t everything. Sure, mine were slightly less than my usual grades, but in the end they are excellent grades nonetheless. And when it came to relationships, I thought that putting too much effort in a friendship – as in remembering tiny details and always wishing the other person a nice day – was a wrong thing to do. Why do I have to be the nice one? Then I noticed that because I remember details and wish people a nice day, they feel at ease when they want to talk to me.

So, this was all I had in mind lately, aside from all the searching-for-a-college fuss. Keep a positive attitude, and keep blogging!

 

Wide of the Mark

It’s incredible how wrong I can be about a certain person or in a certain situation. You know, I sometimes believe my analysis regarding someone’s behavior or interactions with me originates from a certain fear: that of rejection. Or the fear of not being good enough. Or the fear of failure.

Elaboration

You see, talking to my friends makes me feel at ease and helps me forget whatever it is that I went through throughout the day. However, if I see that their conduct differs when we’re together compared to how we interact online, I feel like I am the problem. I feel like I’m being boring at the moment and I’m not being any fun, or maybe another member of the group is just funnier, or better to be around or whatever. I’ll give you a real-life example: just a few days ago, I talked to a friend about how people never fail to surprise me and I actually said that I felt like our friendship is different when you look at how we talk online, and how we interact in real life. But here is the thing. Our friendship is not different. It’s perfectly great in both cases. I just over-analyze and create some silly theories and I don’t know what else it is that I do, but for all that I know our amity is just fine. (Horrible habit I need to work on)

Maybe that is the fear of not being good enough. Being afraid you’re so lame that people don’t want to be seen with you. No, I’m just kidding. But we humans always seek to be loved and appreciated by people whom we consider dear, and, I don’t know why, we tend to over-analyze these people’s behaviors, and I think that even psychologists don’t go that deep. Truth is, the other persons didn’t even have the intention of making us feel this way, and weren’t even thinking that this is how we would react. This is how wrong you can be about someone’s actions and intentions.

 

Another thing I want to talk about is how quickly we start judging people and how incorrect and unjust our judgments turn out to be.

Please don’t tell me that you don’t judge people because I know everyone does.

Anyway, rumors are everywhere. You know that. Every day, someone might be subjected to a lot of rumors based on an incident that has been transmitted, from one person to the other, while being altered in one way or another. Incidents are never spread and told the way they happened. People always change a detail or two.

The worst thing we can do is base our judgment on what we hear. I’ve made the mistake myself. I let what people said about my best friend affect the way I thought of her, and honestly  you cannot imagine how badly I regret everything wrong I thought of her.

So to that I say never over-analyze a situation, and never let people’s words affect your own point of view because not only will you bring yourself down, but you will also be the main reason for the breakdown of your happiest relationships. Keep a positive attitude, stay true to others, be cool and go with the flow, and keep blogging.